Will Smith spoke to Entertainment Tonight yesterday (11-24-2015) while promoting his new film, Concussion, and he dished a few secrets about his marriage to Jada Pinkett-Smith that many of us never knew. Will’s initial explanation of his marriage to his Queen took some folks by surprise, but it made a lot of sense to us.

When Will was asked about how he and Jada managed to stay married for 20 years, he said:

“’You can’t expect it to be easy. It’s like our marriage was the most difficult, grueling, excruciating thing that we have ever taken on in our lives. And you know we’re just not quitters.

If there is a secret I would say it is that we never went into working on our relationship, we only ever worked on ourselves individually, and then presented ourselves to one another better than we were previously.”

That is probably one of the most logical and practical methods to working on a marriage that we’ve ever heard, because the bottom line is that we simply can’t be great spouses/partners if we are not genuinely in a great space with ourselves as first. Will and Jada need to write a book about ‘how to stay married when your spouse is too excruciating and grueling to tolerate’…they’d probably sell out in the first day.

Jada also once stated in an interview that when Will proposed to her, her mood quickly turned to serious mode and she looked him dead in the eyes and sternly said something like ‘Let me tell you something, okay, we’re not getting a divorce.’ LOL…now some men would have instantly felt like they had just proposed to a woman who was a little psycho on the low and would have ran for the hills…but Will didn’t, and as a result, he and Jada have been ride or die for each other for two decades strong.

The Smiths look like they’re on their way to becoming the next Denzel & Pauletta Washington, or Ossie Davis and Ruby Dee. We wish them much continued marriage success and major respect to them for being able to last 20 years so far, which is more like a century in Hollywood.